In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman he was pursuing this question:
“What kind of man are you looking for?”
I sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye and asking,
“Do you really want to know?”
Reluctantly, he said,
I began to expound,
“As a woman in this day and age, I am in a position to ask a man what can you do for me that I can’t do for myself? I pay my own bills. I take care of my money, my household, my job without the help of any man. I am in the position to ask, ‘What can you bring to the table?'”
The man looked at me. Clearly he thought that I was referring to money.
I quickly corrected his thought and stated,
“I am not referring to money. I need something more.. I need a man who is striving for excellence in every aspect of life.”
He sat back in his chair, folded his arms, and asked me to explain.
“I need someone who is striving for excellence mentally because I need conversation and mental situation. I don’t need a simple-minded man. I need someone who is striving for excellence spiritually because I don’t need to be unequally yoked…believers mixed with unbelievers is a recipe for disaster. I need a man who is striving for excellence financially because I don’t need a financial burden. I need someone who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a woman, but strong enough to keep me grounded. I need someone who has integrity in dealing with relationships. Lies and game-playing are not my idea of a strong man. I need a man who is family-oriented. One who can be the leader and provider to the lives entrusted to him by God. I need someone whom I can respect. In order to be submissive, I must respect him, and he is return. I cannot be submissive to a man who isn’t taking care of his business. I have no problem being submissive…he just has to be worthy. And by the way, I’m not looking for him…he will find me. He will recognize himself in me. He may not be able to explain the connection, but he will always be drawn to me. God made woman to be a help-mate for man. I can’t help a man if he can’t help himself.”
When I finished my spill, I looked at him.
He sate there with a puzzled look on his face. He said,
“You are asking a lot.”
“I AM WORTH A LOT..”
I was thinking that this post is great. It’s a punch line for guys out there who have been questioning why women are hard to get. It is also a reminder for us to always have faith in ourselves that we are worth a lot. I found this note on some blog posts, and I couldn’t find the original author of this note. If you happen to find the link, please kindly give a shout to this post. And I wonder what this future guy of mine is doing out there.. Hello you 🙂